Each and every woman loves when a man pays an attention to her. That is why they love a foreplay that includes great fingering before sex. Although we guys love to go “into action” ASAP, a proper foreplay will get both of you in the mood and some girls can not even achieve orgasm during sex without a proper foreplay.
By doing everything ‘right‘ with your fingers, you will get her ultra wet and wanting more of you. If you are lousy at fingering, you may turn her off and she may not achieve orgasm.
Luckily, this step by step guide will tell you everything you need to know to make her scream from pleasure!
STEP #1 – TURN HER ON
As you may have already know the biggest sexual organ in a female body is her brain. Therefore, before you start with the fingering itself you need to stimulate it a lot with a proper foreplay.
Luckily, there are some bulletproof techniques to turn her on easily:
- Compliment her looks and tell her how sexy she is
- Whisper in her ear how much you want her right now
- Give her gentle kisses along the neck/collar bone area
- Progress to a passionate making out
- Play with her breasts a lot
Once she seems to be turned on, it’s time to introduce your fingers and give her the experience of her life. However, before you do I highly suggest to tease her a little bit more (see step #2).
STEP #2 – PANTIES PLAY
If you have put effort into your foreplay and have turned her on, she will want you to enter her right at that moment. However, I like to be a little mean with my girls and tease them a little bit more before I start fingering them.
All you have to do is to:
- Travel slowly with your hand down her lower belly
- Go onto her panties with your fingers
- Cup her pussy over her panties
- Then you need to rub her pussy slowly through her panties
- While rubbing, continue kissing her passionately
Continue until you can feel that her panties are becoming wet. Only then proceed to the third step. If you want her to be much more aroused, do this from behind her.
STEP #3 – RULES & TECHNIQUES YOU HAVE TO TRY
Although fingering and entering her pussy is usually a no-brainer, there are some most common mistakes a lot of guys repeat in the beginning. Before I will share with you special techniques to make her cum really hard (Clit Rubber, Pussy Slider & Come Hither), you need to check out few basic rules.
1. Do not hurry into her!
Rather tease her further on her inner thighs and outer labia until she craves you to be inside her.
2. Never enter her with anything that is dry!
This rule covers even situations when she is well wet inside. Always use your or her saliva, or a lube to make your finger wet.
3. Always enter with just one finger at first!
This should be preferably your middle finger. After a while add a second (either index or ring) finger depending on the technique you will use.
4. Don´t do straight in and out motion!
Some men who have very little experience with women, finger them with a straight ‘in and out’ motion that does absolutely nothing for them regarding stimulation. It’s literally like having sex with a teeny weeny penis, which most women will agree isn’t great.
There are two places you need to focus on while fingering her. These are her clitoris and her G-spot.
THE CLIT RUBBER
The Clit Rubber is one of the easiest techniques to finger a girl. However, some women are too sensitive to direct stimulation of a clitoris, therefore you need to “test the waters” first.
This method works best if you are both standing/kneeling and facing each other (or you are behind her).
Steps you need to follow:
- Make both your middle and index finger wet (use lube or yours/hers saliva)
- With your lubricated fingertips start slowly rubbing her clitoris
- You can find it on top of her vagina, hidden under a soft skin called clitoral hood
- You can change it up a little bit and try soft tapping, circular motions, or gentle squeezing/rolling of her clit between your fingers
- You can gradually increase your speed but you need to maintain a steady rhythm
This is a very common and straightforward way she can easily reach an orgasm. When you use this technique, she will scream from pleasure in the end, trust me.
THE PUSSY SLIDER
The Pussy Slider is not that common technique. However, it works wonders especially is she has a very sensitive clit that can not handle direct stimulation.
Again this technique is great if you are both standing/kneeling and facing each other (or you are behind her).
Steps you need to follow:
- Make sure your middle and index fingers are well lubricated
- Place tips of these two fingers on either side of her clit
- Then slide them down her vulva and enter her vagina
- Return to the second step and repeat this technique
This method is not that common, but it is still easy to do. Just remember that your fingers need to be well wet.
THE COME HITHER
The Come Hither technique is very powerful as many girls can actually squirt from this method of fingering, as long as she is turned on enough. Just don’t expect her to be gushing after a minute, it takes time and dedication. She needs to relax fully, and you need to put the work in to get that end result!
The best way to do this technique is to kneel left of her (if you are right-handed) or right of her (if you are left-handed).
Steps you need to follow:
- Make your palm, middle, and ring finger well wet
- Enter her pussy with these two fingers
- Slope them upwards against her vaginal wall
- Do “come here” motion with your fingers inside her
- Your fingertips should be rubbing her front vaginal wall (where her G-spot is)
- At the same time, you will be cupping her clit with your lubricated palm for extra stimulation
- Start slow and gradually increase your speed and rhythm
- Continue up to an explosive finish (some women prefer this move to be fast while other like it slow and steady)
STEP #4 – BE READY TO GO FURTHER
Guys, just don’t go overboard. Just fingering her for a long time will become boring and her arousal level may go down significantly if you do not change it up.
Although playing with her pussy it’s pretty awesome, so is penetrative sex! Trust me that after a few minutes of great fingering she will be begging you (by showing off signals) for something more.
Just look for one of these signs:
- She is pulling you towards her
- She is trying to unbutton your pants
- She is telling you she wants you
All these mean that she is very horny and wants something more than your hand. In general, a good fingering session always ends in her craving you to be inside her with your cock.
3 Extra Tips to Avoid Making Mistakes
There are tips you should follow to give her the best experience possible:
- Long nails are a big no-no – You need to trim and file (use glass nail file) your fingernails to avoid scratching and hurting her pussy. Especially if you perform the moves described above correctly as the tips of your fingers will come in regular contact with her vaginal wall.
- Always look like you are enjoying it – Do this even if you are really just waiting for the actual sex to begin. If she sees that you are enjoying it, she will relax and fully immerse herself in it.
- Do what SHE enjoys – These are guidelines only, and as mentioned previously, no two women are the same. If she tells you she doesn’t like her clit to be rubbed, for example, stick to the other techniques mentioned. She’s more likely to have a good time if she is entirely comfortable with what is going on.
Just keep in mind that this type of sexual activity is really important to women, as it’s the first step in serious foreplay, after kissing and touching of her breasts. Now that you know all the VITAL parts, why not put these steps into practice?
I hope that thanks to this guide you mastered a precious skill that is sure to make her lust for you even stronger as she’s definitely going to be screaming your name once you are finished with her!